The Divine Mystery of Human Connection

On nights of deep reflection, i sometimes think about the ripples of influence that reverberate from our thoughts, actions, perspectives, & beliefs, and the way those rippling traces of ourselves have the capacity to touch the lives and souls of the people we interact with.  When we connect with someone on a soul level, our mental and spiritual energy often seeps into the reality of who they are, and vice versa.  If someone’s essence is red and mine is blue, the bit of them my soul touches becomes purple, and that minute trace of purple is then subsumed within the rest of their being, sometimes tonally shifting their entire character in the subtlest of ways- and vice versa.

It’s almost laughably strange to think about; as human beings, we pride ourselves on our strength, ingenuity, and dominance over seemingly every earthly force, yet we are so innately, deeply vulnerable to change and fluctuation.  Connection is one of the most deeply-rooted, instinctive, universal human needs, and our need of it makes us the softest, most breakable of God’s creatures.  Of all the factors that shape each individual human destiny, our connections with those around us are among the most significant determinants of our fate; for this reason, every soul we cross paths with has the potential to alter the course of our soul’s journey.

I find this to be one of the most wondrous things about the human being: to realize all the ways in which God has made us so easily touched, moved, and impacted by others. How many strangers have we shed tears for and lost sleep over after we read about their suffering in the news or in books of history? How much of our yearning to absolve the world of its pain and heal its endless divisions arises from the pain we feel at the grief of people we’ve never met?

When we ponder the lives of the most influential beings in history, we often find at the center of their work a particular teacher, guide, lover, or muse; at least one significant person who heavily influenced their ideas and breathed life into their work. No man is an island, and no one flourishes in isolation; all human brilliance is attributable to sources and influences outside itself. Every time we rediscover the words of one of the great thinkers, scholars, poets, and iconoclasts who left their immortal signature on the consciousness of humankind, we breathe new life into a legacy that spans thousands of years, the rise and fall of centuries, the days and nights of the perpetually unfolding dream of human life. Every time we’re altered by the ideas we take in, we pierce the veil of time and give each of our influences a sip from the cup of immortality.

Of all the abstract reasons to conclude that a Creator of everything must exist, i’d put forth the depth and potency of human connection as one of the metaphysical miracles that leave me most deeply certain of His existence. Something as profound and multi-faceted as human connection could not have been a mere biological happenstance; nothing short of Divinity could create such a complex and immeasurably powerful force. This aspect of reality- the abstract space wherein we connect with and influence each other- is an endlessly complex realm. If each human life represents a potential manifestation of the Divine, the intersections between souls are like threads from the eternal needle of God, woven together to generate a unified masterpiece that echoes the Ultimate Unity.

x r

A Brief Philosophy of Love

When i think of love, i don’t think of extravagant gestures or eloquent declarations… i think of the quiet, flowing harmony between two souls at total ease with each other.  I think of the transformative magic of unconditional acceptance, the vulnerability of stripping oneself of carefully-constructed armors and masks, the steady heat of passion that catches fire through deep, soul-centered understanding, and the boundless adoration that blooms from mutual appreciation and unguarded trust.  I think of playful mischief and understated bliss; of white-hot ecstasy underscored by soft, unyielding tranquility. 

The aim of love shouldn’t be to carve another person into the image of what we believe the ideal partner should be. Love, in its most unadulterated form, is about giving another human being the freedom to unfold completely as themselves- paradoxically, this is precisely what gives them the self-belief to become even greater. To truly love someone is to embrace them so unconditionally, our affection breathes life into the dormant qualities within them that are hidden manifestations of the attributes of God. Love isn’t about creating glory within another person… it’s about unleashing the Divine glory that already exists within them by eliminating the layers of doubt, frustration, unworthiness, boredom, and disillusionment that have clouded that glory and rendered it inaccessible.  Love is emboldening someone to pursue the depth of fulfillment they’ve always dreamt of; to deeply understand their soul’s inner vision and water it with vivacity, encouragement, and passion.  To love a person into a state of fullness and expansion is to have truly loved them as God intended.

x r

On Free Will, Faith, & Physics

For the past few nights, i’ve been reading about the question of free will from the perspective of physicists, and i’ve been intrigued to find that many believe the universe to be completely deterministic in nature.  I guess this makes sense; if you believe in materialistic monism, then it likely becomes difficult to account for metaphysical variables such as consciousness, free will, and certain abstract notions and experiences that are characteristic of the human condition.  In order to stick to that worldview, you’d have no choice but to reduce all human complexities to mechanistic occurrences that are materially inevitable.

In one particularly amusing exchange between a hardcore determinist and free-will advocate, the proponent of free will argued that the fact that he’d decided to strike up a conversation with the determinist was a clear expression of his free will; the determinist argued that, on the contrary, their conversation was inevitable, because they were both comprised of particles bound by the laws of physics, and were thus bound by the determinism that underlies all physical phenomena.  Such dilemmas are why i love the Islamic explanation of ‘amr bayn al amrayn; that the truth lies somewhere in the middle. This view accounts for the full picture- it doesn’t negate the deterministic realities of our lives as reflected within the details of our biological composition, yet it also doesn’t negate the fact that we have the God-given will to make our own unique decisions against the backdrop of these factors.  The Qur’an itself affirms that the laws of nature are generally immutable; and yet, it affirms that exceptions even to these laws exist, if God so wills.  I’ve always had a special love for Surah ‘Asr because it beautifully captures both these realities.

My main beef with determinism (and its scary older brother, superdeterminism) is that such notions strip reality of all meaning and leave nihilism as the only logical approach to life.  If all of my actions are predetermined at an atomic level, then committing acts of evil should render no consequences for me, because i was simply doing what was inevitable anyway.  The notion of human agency- that our choices are, indeed, choices- is what gives life meaning, makes consequences just, and allows us to retain ideals, beliefs, passions, goals, and desires that enable us to build a complex and deeply fulfilling existence that isn’t purely animalistic or mundane in nature.  Poetically speaking, i’d go so far as to say that the best counterargument to hard determinism is simply… love.  Many realities of existence might be materially reducible, but love remains the eternally indefinable enigma that renders logic and materialism powerless.  While the emotion itself might arise deterministically, the pursuit of love in all its forms is the highest expression of free will.

x r